Episode 9

Episode 9 - You Said What to a Foster Parent? – Real Reactions & Better Alternatives

Published on: 15th July, 2025

Let’s be real — fostering and adoption come with a unique set of challenges… and sometimes, even more challenging conversations. In this episode, we share the top awkward, cringey, or unintentionally hurtful things people have said to us as foster and adoptive parents — and we unpack why those comments can be difficult, and how to say something more helpful instead.

We’re talking about real-life phrases we’ve heard like:

  • “Are you going to keep them?”
  • “Which ones are yours?”
  • “What happened to their real parents?”
  • “You’re such a saint!”
  • “I could never do that.”
  • “You look tired.”
  • “Everything happens for a reason.”
  • “At least....”

But this episode isn’t just about the hard stuff — we’re keeping it funny and honest too. You’ll hear about:

  • Whitney’s traumatic bathtub corn dog incident during a hair-washing session (yes, it’s as wild as it sounds)
  • Our mini bernedoodle’s attempt to save the day
  • The beauty and chaos of a full house
  • And the sweetest moment when our little one says, “Mommy, tonight was really fun…”

We’re not here to shame anyone — we know most people mean well. But we hope this conversation helps others better understand how to support, speak to, and love on foster and adoptive families.

Whether you’re a foster parent, someone who loves one, or just want to be more thoughtful with your words — this episode is for you.

Let’s Connect:

📧 Email: dreamsmallpodcast@gmail.com📸 Instagram: @dreamsmallpodcast📘 Facebook: Dream Small Podcast🐦 Twitter/X: @DreamSmallShow

🎵 Music Credit:

“Paradise Found” Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/

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About the Podcast

Dream Small Podcast
Big impact doesn’t always come from big platforms. More often, it’s found in the faithful yeses of everyday life.

The Dream Small Podcast, hosted by Jason and Whitney Small—parents of seven, foster and adoptive advocates, and storytellers—invites you to discover the extraordinary in the ordinary. Each episode offers encouragement, practical wisdom, and real-life stories from their journey of foster care, adoption, parenting, and faith.

With humor, honesty, and hope, Jason and Whitney remind listeners that God delights in using small steps of faith and love to change lives. Whether you’re a foster parent, adoptive parent, or simply someone longing to live out your faith in practical ways, Dream Small will inspire you to trade fame for faithfulness and embrace the beauty of everyday obedience.

If you’ve ever wondered whether the “small” things really matter, this podcast is for you. Because sometimes the smallest yes can make the biggest difference.
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